Valued Relationship -- Friendship

"Friendship - One of the most beautiful relationships existing! "

You get a choice to choose friends and each friend in most cases is a GEM to be treasured. At different stages in our lives we meet and make different friends and sometimes these friendships last a lifetime, creating a bond never to be broken... A good friendship is food for the soul..Friendship is love that keeps us secure in its warmth and this is priceless as it really does make you who you are. Friends are the family we choose and in that sense are really precious.
They say changes are only constant -- So do friendships change with time or do some friendships last through thick and thin?

Sometimes friends do drift apart and there could be many reasons : distance, issues, time, job, romantic lives...and some more...Some friendships do not have a special bond to break or weaken,when all the above cited changes happen in life.
As I see it, there are some people we are linked with in an inexplicable way.. An invisible bond that you know is there..With these people one does not need to correspond on a daily basis for the feelings to last. You meet them after years too..The feelings are there..Intact, no discomfort, no awkwardness. Just pure love. That is what I would say is pure n true friendship. A precious relationship to be treasured. It is something that is earned and cannot be treated frivolously and taken for granted. It needs to be nurtured and cared...
I have some wonderful friends I treasure.. Ones whom I laugh with, Ones I cry with, Ones who chase away my blues and with whom I have such strong emotional bonding that I know come what may they are and will be a part of my life!! I just cannot sometimes put my finger on what keeps this invisible bond in place but I always count myself lucky to be blessed with such friends...School to college and Work..When I see them I realise how lucky I am to be blessed with so many wonderful people(Angels of my life!).
The joy of a true friendship is one that lasts forever..So make friends with care and never let go of the ones you cherish.. "True friends are the most precious gems one finds in life!!"

Friendship and its side effects !

Another of those wingling thoughts in my head which am writing about :) There are some people who come into our lives and are meant to stay only for a brief period...Ofcourse the fact remains that they dont go away..They dont dissapear...They are very much in your life..But the friendship u shared once upon a time just withers away..Fades off...Gets neglected!

Being a frequent "chirkutter" (Lotsa Orkutting! ;)) on the mention of a particular someone who for some strange reason is now limited only to my orkut profile and otherwise would probably not even be knowing if i was dead or alive!! But then : "All people in your friend list cant be called your forever friends"

Now this put me into thought : "How many 'friends' do i actually have?"

Lemme rephrase that..."Are all the people I know and who were friends with me once upon a time still my 'friends'??" "Do we still care as much?" "Do we still bother to keep abreast of whats happening with each other?(In hindsight, do we really want that?)" or "Has the distance, time and work constraints come in between??" Well the answer was pretty obvious...

The reason for this happening could be...I did not manage to keep in touch...They got too busy..I got held up..They felt ignored...To cut the story short...Nobody is to blame...We all got screwed up by life and somewhere all of us lost a little bit of each other...The bit that really cared or seemed to!! :(

But then again its not all that black...We still know we are there for each other...and I've still got some tried (their patience) and tested(their friendship) 'u-can-call-me-at-any-time-of-the-day-or-night' buddies and 'il'l-always-be-there-for-you-all-u-need-to-do-is-just-holler' pals..:) So all is not lost and hopefully never will be -- For them and For me..Touchwood! :)

Ripples....

One day suddenly the cool and calm sea of mind is disturbed by a small ripple originating from a small violent thought ....Leaving u astry!! And suddenly the noise in your brain starts to increase to uncontrolable levels freaking u out and u look for a vent,some one to talk to, hold onto.. But...There is no one just no one .......

My minds always a whirlpool of varied emotions and scribbling some of these emotions comes quite naturally to me...Unfortunately everything remains bundled inside due to a lot of factors and the dramatic queen inside me finds relief in writing inside the head only andreading it out aloud to herself ;)

Off late I find myself just going through varied motions of life...Its like my life's stuck at some place and I’m waiting for it to untangle itself and become the way it was. I have become nothing but a passive observer! To onlookers it appears as normal as it can possibly get..But deep down I know that I’m struggling. Struggling to be genuinely happy, struggling to laugh heartily, struggling to indulge in things that make me happy; coz I seem to have forgotten wat makes me happy :( Struggling to live only for myself for a while, struggling to come to peace with my changed surroundings...Its like I want to soar in the sky but I seem to have forgotten flying! I have everything that I could possibly need in my life, but I dnt have myself..Setbacks could never keep me pinned down for long,But this time although I have dealt with them, my inner being is not brimming with joy... Its like thelingering effects prevail....

When lonliness starts to take over you and your thoughts,you see unknown things and you imagine the unimaginary...I dont need an invalidation of my feelings..Wat I need is wat I have rite now..A feeling of being at peace with myself, sitting in my room soaking the last bit of peace exuded by it, every small thing in it reminding me of precious memories, a feeling of belongingness, just being around my family puts everything back in perspective...Now I think :

Why is it that- At times crying heavily for 5 minutes amazingly eases your pain...more than being happy for a very long period??Is shedding a tear more important than wearing a smile?Why then do we keep saying that laughter is the best medicine? When we know for sure...That crying is the last resort...

Perfect Abode! :)

The (boooring)lectures at 9 in the morning to start of with,those never ending assignments,numerous classes bunked,proxies given,craving for attendance,last bench jokes,first bench talks,birthday celebrations(which includes the bday bumps),lunch breaks(ten ppl sharing one dosa),ragging sessions,organizing socials,outings with frenz,last min cramming...This was our "Perfect Abode" (College Days!)

Scenario's with the lingo ;) --

Begining of sem and in some cases throughout the sem

Question: What class do we have next hour?
Assured replies:

• I don't know!
• What difference does it make? Naan anthu malkontini( I'm gonna sleep anyways!)
• Well, I am hungry..
• Eh? Yaake?(Why?)
• Class ge hogtidya??(Attending Class?)
• No idea..Do we have enough attendance?
• Loo..I got IPod (with some videos ;)),We can share the earphone..
• Hehe.. good one ;)

Somewhere in middle comes the internals/unit test:

Question: How did you do?

Common reply: Who gives a damn!! Its only Internals ;)

At the time of semester examz

Question: How did you do?

Majority replies:

• I got screwed!
• I'm surely getting kicked!
• This university sucks, They're screwing us ;)
• And more desi guys will be like "Hodskothu Macha","All clean Gaurentee", "Bido eno aitu..Nindu?"
• As for gals they will be more secretive and usually depends on their friends opinion :"Oh nandu chanagaithu"(Mine went good) (or) "Hoon kane nandu hoithu"(Yup I screwed mine too!) depending on whom they tallking to :D

Completely unacceptable reply: [Don't try this at home or in college ;)]

Awesome sisya/machi!!! FCD for sure this time!!! (You'll probably be dead by the time you finish this sentence,coz you're surrounded by pissed off students who've just come out of the exam hall)

Apart from these :
They talk about (or) go to Movies,have complete 'knowledge' of celebs,Play Games on XBox or PS3 and not on TV video games(thats like being in 20,000 BC according to guys),Have a IPhone/pod/touch, interested in gals/guys,will know the best place to eat,drink..Nothing is unhealthy as long as its edible..A bottle of mineral water costs more than bottle of Coke/pepsi nevermind the quantity..Caffeine is the way of life..Lastly we got no clue about life beyond college compound! ;)

The smile is round the corner,how would it not be? ;) Coz what you have read has made you remember "The Best Days Of Your Life! "